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I Became a ‘Tradwife’ At 19. The Decision Still Haunts Me.
Hello! The recent surge in coverage about "tradwives" (women embracing traditional gender roles in marriage) is sparking A LOT of heated debate. Unfortunately, online discourse often tends to oversimplify issues. To provide more nuanced and firsthand perspectives, we're highlighting two contrasting Doe essays: one from a woman who regrets her early tradwife experience, and another from someone who finds fulfillment in her conventional marriage.
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I Became a ‘Tradwife’ At 19. The Decision Still Haunts Me. 👰
“We got engaged on my 19th birthday, six weeks after meeting in person for the first time. I spent my sophomore year planning our wedding and deflecting the concerns of friends and professors who encouraged me to ‘wait a few years.’ Because we believed pre-marital sex was a sin, we were eager to marry as soon as possible. In an outdoor ceremony next to Matt’s childhood church the next summer, I vowed to be an ‘obedient, faithful, and submissive wife.’ Matt pledged to ‘have authority over me’ as my headship.
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I Love My ‘Tradwife’ Life 💞
“It’s been easy—I feel like that’s the best word to describe it. For us, the further we bend into traditional gender roles, the easier things are. When I was working, there was a lot of room for imbalances, like when both people work but one person ends up doing more housework. But now it’s like, I do the stuff in the house, he does the stuff out of the house. He works, he provides, he does all the bills. I clean, I take care of the kids. It’s black and white.”
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